Dear Readers,
Let´s talk about the worst and the best thing there is on earth! Having a crush or a squish.
How cool is it when you find someone you connect with on a deeper level? You laugh together, you discuss things, and you go on adventures together; it´s exciting to get to know each other, and the person in front of you opens up like a beautiful flower with all their delicate petals. I love that moment so much. You can feel them opening up. This is probably one of my favorite moments when it comes to human interactions. To me, it just feels magical…
But then there is the other side of things. The question not only we aces struggle with:
DO I TELL THEM?
If I tell them, will it affect the friendship that we have established?
Do they like me as well?
Do I want them to like me?
Do I want a relationship with them or do I just feel more and don´t want more?
As an ace, we especially struggle when the person that we are crushing/squishing on is allo. We all know that´s gonna be difficult. Every scenario is different and if the person already knows that you are ace, it might be a bit easier. But it´s still not an easy decision.
In my experience, it really depends on you. And by the way, this is not only valid for aces; it´s valid for everyone who crushes on a person.
The real question is if you can live with not saying anything and just remaining friends with this person. Which is a valid option. Sometimes, having a crush on someone just feels great, and talking to this person about it would destroy the magic.
But if you cannot live with what you feel for this person, talking to them might be the right option. Even if that means losing a friendship or a break of contact, at least for a while. Always remember there is always also a chance for a positive outcome.
Cause maybe, just maybe they were crushing on you too!
Best, Ace
