Dear Readers,
Recently, I posted about the different types of attractions. Since there are so many types of attractions, we all have probably experienced unique and maybe weird connections with people that might confuse us.
By the way, weird, in this case, is not meant in a bad way; actually, it’s a compliment.
Why? These connections might not necessarily conform to social norms.
I’m talking about a connection we might feel for someone unexplainable on many levels.
We might have people in our lives with whom others assume we are in a relationship but who are actually friends who feel like family. Or they might feel like more than friends, but you can’t imagine ever dating them or being physical with them—ever.
Or you have such a deep understanding of someone that you don’t need to even look at each other to know what the other person thinks. You can rely on each other without actually talking to the other person. You just know.
It’s very hard to explain these connections or attractions to others—I’m not sure what the better word is there—and others are quick to judge.
Most of us like categories and labels. I’m no exception. They help me figure out where I belong and where I stand in the world. However, I learned that not everything can be defined or needs a label. Sometimes, we just need to live with the knowledge that there can be connections we don’t know how to explain or describe. And maybe that’s a good thing.
Regardless of what society, other friends, or family members tell you, sometimes you cannot define or label your connection with someone. Don’t force it, don’t jump to conclusions, or let anyone tell you what you should do with this connection!
Value your unique connections, knowing nobody else has them but the two of you!
Do you have a connection like this?
Best,
Ace